Touching Lives

This is the story of my wife and this blog, the story of my spiritual life written while I am living. I love writing  in real time, my true experiences, my feelings and my thoughts of the moment so that I chart my life as I continue to stay true to my beliefs in life which includes facing reality and living with spiritual intuition. It is about learning from real life experiences to improve myself and sharing it with others so they too can help themselves. I rather do this when I am alive and active rather than when I'm old and dying to only have a few months to live to pen a few words. I want the world to know why I think of what I think about now, in a real time environment and share my deepest feelings and thoughts that is from my soul in a way liken to the words of Wordsworth in his writings :

Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:
The soul that rises with us, our life’s star,
Hath had elsewhere its setting,
And cometh from afar:
Not in entire forgetfulness,
And not in utter nakedness,
But trailing clouds of glory do we come
From God, who is our home.
(Ode: Intimations of Immortality)

My wife, in her moments of pain in one of her bouts with cancer, would sometimes cry out for reasons to live on. In our time of pain and anguish, in an hour of darkness and doom, any one of us would cry out for relief and even doubt the purpose to live and carry on.

When put with a question of this sort, somehow the answer that came quickly in my mind was firmly, 'So that you may touch the life of some one else whose life is precious in the eyes of God!' For I recall in our scriptures, D&C 18:10 'Remember the worth of souls is great in the sight of God'.

For her, she has indeed already touched many lives in the past :


She has touched lives to make them laugh.
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(Links to interview and edited video version by The Straits Times' Razor TV found here. Note that links to news press/media sites my not work anymore due to rapid changes in their websites where they may discard old files due to storage limitations.)


.... and also to make them cry!



She can sing to touch individual lives privately in a family...

.... or touch many lives in a public hall




Here she sings with the Singapore Symphony Chorus, the official choir of the Singapore Symphony Orchestra in a joint performance in the 'Berlioz's La damnation de Faust' concert on 2 May 2009.

From the blog Life As We Know It, "I'm so grateful to have had this woman in my life and cannot wait to see her again. I know exactly where I will find her, singing her heart out with the heavenly choirs--her voice blending beautifully with those around her but her face standing out as her eyes glow with mountains of love and a smile of true joy spreading across her face." Chelsea Grant

This was the last spectacular performance in the Church choir she was practicing for but didn't live to join in, Handel's Messiah, for the Christmas of 2012.

This is the reason to live, to touch the life of someone else!


By her bedside at the hospital, I played this video to her knowing it's her favorite song and lyrics. Listen to it...




She inspired a Dream family that led us to creative paths in different directions and parts of the world :


It all began from little things that she taught us in dance, music and acting in our Malaysia days in the 90s...


... which carried on till Dec 2006 in our last performance as a family in the PJ Church building before moving to Singapore.

As the children grew up and found themselves in different parts of the world, what their mother touched them with in their life time is evident in their own lives. We have Fei the oldest child finding herself in Beijing and even Sweden after her BYU Hawaii college experience. Su the next oldest moved to mainland USA from college in Hawaii to graduate in the field of performing arts from BYU Provo. Both Fei and Su were wise to find their own soul mates to be married in Church temples ceremonies in Logan and Salt Lake City in Utah.

As for the boys, Han the oldest and his next younger brother Shuan have both set a high standard of academic performance for the younger two brothers to follow. Ern and Ray, are the youngest two of the NEXT GENERATION that I will have to continue to raise alone without their mother's continuing care. I'm glad that on Mom's 50th birthday, the children got to express their appreciation to their mother for special memories with her during their life time as per the video below :


When she turned 50 in April 2012, the children shared 50 memories of how they were touched in their lives by their Mom.

In a post funeral event, fellow Storytellers of Geok Lee from StoryLab  had decided to dedicate the evening's Storytelling event to her. I was invited for the event held at The Substation of 45 Armenian Street on the night of 24th November 2012. The above video is a short clip at the end where each one got to share their recollection stories of her.


Here is a storytelling event from Christmas of 2010 where Geok Lee is seen with more photos in the album here.

She stars in this humorous family video Story in the Christmas of Dec 2010. In the last part of the video shows her storytelling experience to old folks in the Henderson Community Centre, an event where the MP Indranee Thurai Rajah was present.

She performs on stage or even in an MRT train to entertain children!

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In one of the family council meetings held with the family members of Geok Lee in Singapore, someone suggested to me that I should write or even publish a book on the Story about My Wife.With so many unpublished books I wish to accomplish in my mind, I can only resort to the live postings I have done on the internet for now. Here goes.....

Here will be how the chapters will go, done very quickly with the technology in my hands today and my elaborate mind :

The Story about My Wife (a.k.a. The Unstoppable Mom)

Chapter 1 A True Story

Chapter 2 A Picture Perfect View of our life of imperfections

Chapter 3 Continuing life through to the New Millennium

Chapter 4 Another trip to the USA

Chapter 5 Starting the Journey of Challenges

Chapter 6 How she got to be called The Unstoppable Mom

Chapter 7 Facing the toughest challenge but not without miracles

Chapter 8 Continuing to Celebrate Life

Chapter 9 Enjoying loved ones who come home

Chapter 10 A planned trip that wasn't to be

Chapter 11 A funeral the way she wanted

Chapter 12 Touching Lives, in a Journey of Journeys

The theme of the last chapter above comes from a 'Journey of Journeys' we made in the summer of 2004 to the United States. It was called as such as though we had traveled together through many lands around the great dividing Pacific ocean such as the US many times previously on the north east side, in Asia more frequently to many countries in the west, Australia in the south and even as far south east of the ocean to French Polynesia,  no other previous journeys could come close in comparison. Socially, in terms of people we came to meet again on this journey, it spanned over people we had first met at least through two decades of our lifetime together ie since 1982. As for Sights and Scenery, besides jetting about from city to city as done in previous trips, we covered thousands of miles on land in our jeep in the spirit of adventure, crossing terrain of rivers and lakes. Spiritually, it was definitely a breakthrough experience particularly for Geok Lee as we journeyed together, anxiously engaged in family history and temple work.

Do read the last chapter carefully to verify what I've said. In her own personal words, she ended her page saying, "The work still continues, much, much more is needed to be done. This experience had helped me gain a new perspective of the gospel. The work for our forebears is real and their influence can truly be felt even beyond the veil."

During her life time, my wife had done so much for our Family, for the Church and touched many other lives in the community or communities she had lived. The only reason she had to leave us so soon must be that she is needed more beyond the veil than continuing her responsibilities here on earth. There are also many other loved ones who had gone ahead earlier waiting to receive her. This is our belief and the blessings of the restored gospel with its covenants will keep us together till we meet again for the eternities. She can truly say, as Paul said in 2 Timothy 4:7, "I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith."

We have indeed mourned her passing but more important is that we have celebrated her life of joy and many accomplishments during her lifetime with us. We were blessed in having her in our midst in this, our journey of life, and perhaps the journey that she is on now should surpass what we thought was a 'Journey of Journeys'!

Photos from our earthly Journey of Journeys :


Together at the Church Conference Center in Salt Lake city, the city that became the center of our overland adventure that became a tapestry of Social, Scenic and Spiritual experiences.

Being close to nature and the elements.

Crossing cool mountain streams

Being by the Great Pacific Ocean

Close to our daughters in Hawaii at that time

.... and we loved being close to our friends in America too :


Bon Voyage My Love on this,  the final Journey of Journeys that brings you home to many loved ones who have waited for you, as we will now have to wait until we meet you again! 

Love Is...


Love Is from Dad the KL City Kid on Vimeo.

Her life, as far as our family is concerned, will be a forever continuing story. Note that her continuing story started from the blog post here. If you click the link to the post mentioned earlier, the bottom of that post will have a link to the next continuing post and so forth. It will go through many posts eventually leading to this post and as you can see, there is still another link at the bottom of this post to click to continue her story.

As an 'Unstoppable Mom' with a 'Never Ending Birthday Celebration'that started on her April 2012 birthday, her story continues here.  

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